The mother of the bride! But what does this really mean and what duties does the ential. For a lot of mothers of the bride they want to play a role in their daughters big day but it can be hard not to take over! Don’t worry we have you covered today! You know sticking with tradition is not really our thing but we will be looking at what roles traditionally a mother of the bride helps with. 

For us, we say sit down with your daughter and talk it through, find out what support she wants. What decisions she wants to make and how you can support and make the planning process easier. 

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1. Be their biggest cheerleader

Wedding planning can be overwhelming at times, stressful and hard! the mother of the bride should be there to support the bride, cheer them on and cheer them up when needed. Be a shoulder to cry on, give support or whatever they need throughout the process. 

2. Help find the wedding dress

The fun one right? Traditionally the mother of the bride, and the rest of the bridal party,  support with the wedding outfit shopping process. Helping the bride find the perfect ‘one’ is a great honour and usually lots of fun. Giving honest feedback, choosing the right style and fit so the bride feel comfortable and confident on her big day. 

3. Help with traditions and heirlooms 

So for us, we say if a tradition doesn’t suit you don’t do it! That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t follow any though. If they are the right fit for you as a couple then embrace them!  The mother of the bride can help to research or pass down family traditions. They are usually the ones who give you something old or blue. Having an heirloom or even just something from your mothers or gran mothers wedding at yours can make the day special and meaningful. 

4. Invitations and guest list

Traditionally your invitations come from your parents. If opting for this tradition then having the mother brides input can be useful and as her name will be in print she really should be consulted. If not then the mother of the bride might still be a great help with wording. They can also help with the guest list. They may have their own people they wish to invite but having their support when choosing family members to include at a times can be invaluable.  

5. Be supportive with the planning

This depends on if you have a planner or how much you want to take on yourself. But, the mother of the bride can be a huge support. They can be the go-to contact for supplier and or family members. They are the second pair of hands or a new point of view when you both can’t agree. Don’t underestimate the stress that can be saved by having the support of the mother of the bride or someone else’s. 

mother of the bride with bride

6. assist with morning prep

Helping to get the bride and the bridal party ready on time can be a big task. The mother of the bride traditionally is there to support the bride into her dress and keep everything on schedule, as best they can. Making the morning as special as can be and keeping those nerves under control for the bride! 

7. Be the hostess

Traditionally as mentioned it is the parents inviting the guests to celebrate. Having a receiving line is not really the done thing anymore! Especially if the invites came from the parents the mother of the bride should make all guests feel welcome. Make an effort to speak to all and thank them for coming to celebrate. knowing the mother of the bride is looking after the guest is a huge burden taken from the couple.

8. On the day duties 

This may be walking the bride down the aisle, possibly giving a speech or just being a support throughout the day. Being clear on the help and support needed and making sure you fulfil those roles on the day is a big part and a huge help on the day. Also, be prepared for no roles or duties, being happy with that as that is their wish and it’s their day. 

9. Financial support 

If possible the biggest support can sometimes be facial. Weddings are expensive, having extra cash injected into the budget can mean they can have the wedding they dream of. Also, it could just be helping manage the budget. Keeping on top of the budget is an important part of wedding planning and saving here and there can really add up overall. 

10. Enjoy the experience and day

yes, it is their day! but more than likely you have thought about this day yourself more than once! enjoy the process of planning and the day itself. maybe more than your own as you don’t have the nerves and added stress involved in your day. weddings are a celebration, always make fun a priority! 

Mother of the bride roles 

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